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Keeping the Peace
By Dr. Ellison
November 16, 2016
Category: Family
Tags: family   friends   thanks  

I’ve been thinking lately that with tensions running high throughout our country, stressors overwhelming and emotions likely erupting, now is the time more than ever to hit the pause and call on some perspective.  I have witnessed, on more than a few recent occasions, unmet expectations fueled by emotionally charged themes and before you know it friends, coworkers, siblings and spouses are divided by a toxic disagreement. I am not only referring to last week’s election, but also with this being the time of year that it is and Thanksgiving happens to be the upcoming holiday this month. Family gatherings have the potential to become forums for nasty arguments and hurt feelings, but only if you allow it. Unless your intention is to avoid touchy issues altogether, perhaps you will go in with an open mind and an open heart. Listen with the intent to understand, not to disagree and to selfishly prepare what you will say next. I am reminding myself that, while I cannot control what happens nor what others say, I can control my own response.

Families will be drawn together next week to share this holiday of thanks and my hope is that each and every one will feel comforted by what matters most. I will challenge myself to think less of things I want and to more graciously consider all the things I already have. Thanksgiving is my most favorite holiday because it is spent with our family. I wish you and your families the very best.